I read an article on Entrepreneur.com that touched on shifting your circle of influence and it has resonated with me ever since. Below is a snippet from the article:
"There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did and who always will.
Once you get clear on who you are and what you want, you must re-evaluate your Circle of Influence. Who you associate with is who you become. The term "role model'' is not used enough in our society. It’s extremely important to have role models. A role model will raise your standards. A role model will not let you get complacent. Finding a role model or mentor will spark your mind because they are playing the game at a higher level than you are.
If you hang around five confident people, you will be the sixth.
If you hang around five intelligent people, you will be the sixth.
If you hang around five millionaires, you will be the sixth.
If you hang around five idiots, you will be the sixth.
If you hang around five broke people, you will be the sixth.
Such a simple concept, but what a difference it can make on your performance and business. There’s no faster way to advance into the top 5 percent of your industry than this. Yet, most people don’t do it."
Honestly if this doesn't strike a chord with you, I'm not sure what will. Simply said: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
If you've been thinking about and talking about paying off debt but everyone around you is adopting a "YOLO" mentality, you need to shift your circle of influence.
If you've been wanting to start your own business but everyone around you thinks you are wasting your time, you need to shift your circle of influence.
If you are the most successful person within your group of friends, you need to shift your circle of influence. Find people doing better than you and then challenge yourself.
You are more likely to accomplish your goals if you are surrounded with the right influences that will motivate you and encourage you to do better.
Shifting your circle of influence doesn't mean you start picking fights or cutting people off for no reason. It means that you identify the type of people you want to spend more time with and start spending less time with the people who have nothing to contribute to your purpose.
But what if you don't have the right people around to motivate you when it comes to achieving your financial goals?
No problem. Find virtual mentors and follow everything they do. Read about them online and in books, go over every interview you can find, listen to them speaking on YouTube, learn how and why they operate the way they do, learn about their businesses and why they are successful. Study their failures and how they rebounded. Let them become your new circle of influence.
Some of my personal virtual mentors include Warren Buffet, Sara Blakey and Oprah. Who are yours?
Don't allow yourself to become complacent. This is your life and if you want to succeed you are going to have to take charge, make positive changes (including adjusting your circle of influence) and take action.
Bola Onada Sokunbi