In today's world, it's not uncommon for women to be the breadwinners or sole earners in their homes. Once upon a time, I was the breadwinner in my family too. However, sometimes, this can be a really difficult situation to be in as a woman especially when having a female breadwinner is the opposite of the traditional relationship setting.
I've put together 3 tips to help ease the tension if any exists if you are the breadwinner at home.
Tip #1: Don't apologize but don't be obnoxious
A lot of times when women earn more, or when we do better than our male-counterparts we sometimes feel like we need to apologize or play down our accomplishments. Instead, we should be proud of what we have been able to do without being obnoxious about it to avoid driving contempt or resentment in our partners.
At the end of the day, you are a team and whatever you do or accomplish or earn only helps to make your team better and that is the angle you want to approach it. Be proud of your accomplishment, but involve your partner in the excitement of what it means for you both and for your "team".
Tip #2: Don't be a dictator instead consider how you would want to be treated
Just because you earn more doesn't mean you should become the evil queen dictating, how every penny is spent, checking all the bank accounts and asking for a play by play of every transaction your partner made.
Think of how you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed. A big part of relationships involves mutual respect and trust. Allow your partner to make financial decisions, remember you are part of a team and it is a partnership. You need to make financial decisions together.
Tip #3: Communicate, communicate, communicate
This, in my opinion, is the most important tip when it comes to this topic. Communication is key. It's important to talk about how you feel and how your partner feels.
It's important to talk about your financial goals and it's important to make financial decisions together. Keeping open lines of communication will help you avoid a ton of potential problems.
Are you the breadwinner in your household? Share your thoughts and your tips in the comments below!